Another day, another group of women, another lesson learned:
I sat at a baby shower, eating a piece of chocolate cake and enjoying a child-free, Spring morning with a room full of other child-free mommies.
All the husbands watching kiddos while we celebrated a new mom and baby-to-be.
In the midst finger foods, laughing, and present unwrapping enters a daddy. With his two-year-old son.
“I just stopped by to get him something for lunch. I totally forgot.”
The hostess (and mommy of that little two-year-old boy) jumped up and grabbed a bag. She stuffed it with crackers, cheese sticks, grapes and a sippy, handed it to the daddy and “shoo-ed” him out the door.
The door had barely closed behind him. “Idiot. He doesn’t even know how to fix a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.”
A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones. Proverbs 12:4
Am I ever decay in Brent’s bones?
We have a “dumb guy” epidemic in our culture. Seriously. Watch a Hardee’s commercial. You’ll see what I mean.
Sleepy-headed, hung-over looking man, stumbles to the kitchen. He grabs a box of cereal and fumbles it to the ground. Then he drops eggs in the floor. Poor guy. He doesn’t know how to make his own breakfast.
Or the yogurt commercial where the husband thinks he’s been eating Boston Creme pie this whole time and can’t figure out how he’s loosing weight, but come to find out it was really low-fat yogurt the whole time. Or the ….
I could go on.
Media is horrible about this. And it really frustrates me.
Where’s the Marlboro man? I mean. Sure he smoked, but I bet he knew how to fry an egg.
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, not harm all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11,12
Am I doing my husband good? Do I speak well of him? Is my character a good reflection on his?
Oh, how I want it to be.
Wives, let’s resolve today, to stop speaking negatively about our mates. Let’s resolve to encourage them in their jobs, as fathers, as providers, as leaders. And rebel against the epidemic.
If you want a strong leader in your home, start talking to him like he is one.
Watch him stand a little taller when you do.
Point out all that he does – For your family. For your finances. For your children. And thank him. Even if it is painful to do so.
His heart will trust in you all the more.
Love Dare #3
Fighting fair: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by those rules when the next disagreement occurs.
Love note: Think about your husband or wife’s vulnerabilities. If you protect them when you argue, your spouse will likely trust you more. If you don’t pursue a win at all costs mind-set, you may both take more times to listen to what is upsetting both of you.
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