Myer’s Briggs and Marriage {More Than Fine}

Have you ever taken a Myers Briggs test?

Myers Briggs is a series of random questions used to give us a basic understanding of our personality types. Brent and I took it several times as we served with Campus Crusade for Christ. Myers Briggs is helpful insight for knowing your teammates’ way of thinking, feeling and best means of communication.

As this test did help us as a staff team, it has helped me all the more as a wife. Knowing the results of Brent’s personality test has been helpful for understanding his way of thinking, feeling and best means of communication. {smile}

As I have said, Brent is an introverted feeler. Simply put, Brent has endearing emotions and thoughts about those he loves, he just doesn’t express them as often in words.

For example, Brent might be having the best time of his life on vacation, but by looking at him one might think he is only having a “nice time”.

I, on the other hand, am an extroverted feeler. You know how I am feeling the second I am feeling it. If I love you, you know it. If I am struggling, you know it. If I am hungry, you know it. If I am angry, you know it. If I am hungry and angry… I am hangry. And you know it.

For years, it bothered me that Brent was not more expressive with his emotions toward me – his wife. But I have come to realize Brent is very reflective. He and I have similar emotions about our marriage, our children, the Lord, etc, but Brent thinks on them, and I talk about them.

God, however, loves us and expresses His affection every way imaginable. He scored 100 on every Myers Briggs category. A test can not contain God’s expression of love for us. God is as extroverted a feeler as He is an introverted feeler. He thinks on us. And He expresses His great love for us with words and actions.

God reflects…

How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I would count them, that are more than the sand! Psalm 139:17-18

God tells us what He is thinking…

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.” Jeremiah 31:3

Isn’t it amazing to know that you are God’s livelihood? His day is consumed with love for you!

The next two days, let us reflect and share our affection in a marriage that is {more than fine}…

Today let’s be an introverted feeler. Reflect on your spouse and all that makes you adore them. Listen to “that song”, remember your first kiss. Celebrate them in your thoughts. How do they bless your life? What do you enjoy about them? What makes you laugh? Giggle out loud at your inside jokes.

Then tomorrow, let’s be extroverted feelers and make a point to tell them! Express with words, either written or verbally, what you have been thinking. Explain those sweet thoughts. Come on, introverted feelers! You can do it!

Father God, thank you for your example of love towards me. Thank you that I have no doubt how you consider me, remember me, reflect on me or sing over me. Your Word is so affirming of your great love for your Bride. Today, let me embody these same attributes of affection towards (spouse’s name). Give me grace to reflect on all that I adore about them. Swell up within me emotions of thankfulness for your provision of my marriage. And give me grace to express in words, how much I do love them. Even if I am not good with words, give me the one’s to say to ensure they know how much I am still in love. In Jesus Name, Amen.